Many clients come to me frustrated by their “spinning head” which comes from considering way too many options - maybe this, maybe that... or then again maybe “I’ll start my own business.” Or their target is way too wide, like “operations” or “a position where I can work with people”.
What all this paralysis is really saying is, “I’m immobilized by fear so I’ll work really hard at this search, applying for everything that has any appeal to me at all, and then I’ll get really frustrated and stay safely stuck.”
It also could be saying, “I’m still burnt out by my last exhausting corporate experience and I’m terrified to jump back into the fire.”
Or maybe it’s just saying “I’m really enjoying my flexible schedule which allows me to work out during the day, hike during the week and take a few classes in between sending out resumes for random jobs."
Stop the insanity!
Own what’s really going on and deal with the emotions and causes behind your spinning. If you’re enjoying what one client called “farting around”, then just be in it and learn to live on less money.
If you’re still feeling defeated by your last job experience, get some help to process them so you can move on. Many, many people have come through this downturn wounded by abusive bosses or at the very least, overworked with zero work-life balance. Just avoiding your negative feelings will keep you stuck and if you ever do fall into an interview, there’s a good chance you’ll self-sabotage.
Get Focused!
Unless you can be very specific with your networking contacts about what you’re looking for, you’re essentially missing potential leads every time you open your mouth. If you are really open to many different options, get over it NOW!
For example, instead of saying you are looking for a job in operations or project management or possibly as a manager of a team, talk about your specific passions for managing IT projects using Agile and define the companies you are targeting.
Pay attention to what part of your pitch sticks or doesn’t and tweak your focus accordingly. Say it out loud, and know that you can redefine your focus on a weekly basis… just don’t be vague.
And if you’re still spinning, get some help from a coach with what’s behind your immobilization.
